Problem with jQuery.

If i load the jQuery with "Hot Flashes Menu" i have some problems with "Image Show GK4" plug in: some types of display do not work and also with "Contact enhanced 2.5.12" plug in: the google maps is not loaded and the default reCaptcha Joomla! plug in desappears below the contact form fields.
cms.fbconlus.it/index.php/ct-menu-item-33/ try any contacts. jQuery is ON.
If i change the option "Load jQuery" to no, everything works fine except Hot Flashes Menu:
the images is not loaded correctly and also if i click on the nenu, the second level menu appears but
the image do not change.
what can i do?
I have the 2.5.2 version. Is there un update?
Images:
with jQueryOFF




With jQuery ON

You need to have one and only one jquery reference before any of modules, if you use our template it included with template so you can turn it off in all modules/plugins

i don't use your template.
But let me understand:
if i disable load jQuery in Hot Flashes Menu and it does not work it means that there is not jQuery loaded from anywhere in the template?
if i disable load jQuery in Hot Flashes Menu and in a page there is another module that load jQuery, Hot Flashes Menu must works?
Because in my "Contatti" page i have only the "Contact enhanced 2.5.12" plug in and the default reCaptcha Joomla! plug in.
This is the answer of the "Contact enhanced 2.5.12" plug in programmer:"MooTools is the default javascript library in Joomla and that's what I use in my extensions. When you add an extension using another javascript library this extension has to be compatible with MooTools".
any suggestions?
Thanks.

It simple , if you have jquery ref let's say some-ware in head section, that ref is available for all components needing it after that. But if other reference appears after jquery will load again and all widgets constructed using first ref instance will be destroyed.

So when you go to view source of your page there must be one and only jquery reference

I don't know how to verify it!

So right click on your page , then view source.

look for <script ... src="... jquery.min.js"></script>

or

<script ... src="... jquery-x.x.x.min.js"></script>
(x.x.x are version number)