if anyone else is interested...(answering to myself):
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template overrides
docs.joomla.org/How_to_override_the_outp...rom_the_Joomla!_core
original files for email and invoice:
components/com_virtuemart/views/invoice/tmpl/
activation page comes from joomla, files for users are located in:
components/com_users/views/